Finding Ways to Maintain Civility With Your Competitors

On Sept. 8, sisters Serena and Venus Williams squared off during the U.S. Open in a match that could have had historical significance for Serena Williams, who was closing in on a Grand Slam, a feat not achieved since 1988. In an article aptly titled "Love Game," Steve Tignor, for Tennis.com, described the charged atmosphere as a sold-out, celebrity-riddled crowd filled Arthur Ashe Stadium in New York. "It was more unique, definitely," Venus Williams said of the vibe. "Serena is going for the Grand Slam, and I think everybody is interested because she has to play her sister to get [...]

By | 2016-05-28T18:32:25+00:00 September 17, 2015|Categories: Career Coaching, The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , |

Tips for Developing Self-Confidence So You Can Flourish

Last month, I wrote about the rising recognition of emotional intelligence as a key factor in successful leadership using the new movie "Inside Out" to illustrate points about anger and self-management. Now, I turn to "The Sound of Music" for an assist in addressing another competency of emotional intelligence: self-confidence. In the movie, young novice Maria tentatively begins her journey to be governess to seven children. She has no experience and is forced to leave everything she knows. In the song "I Have Confidence," Maria sets her intention for how to handle the new situation, telling herself that she will [...]

By | 2016-05-28T22:44:01+00:00 August 27, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , , |

How to Harness Emotional Intelligence to Ensure Success

The new animated movie "Inside Out" takes the audience inside the brain of an 11-year-old girl named Riley, where her responses to situations are governed by five emotions personified. They are Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear and Disgust, and they vie for command of the internal control center to influence Riley's behavior. When her family moves to San Francisco from Minnesota, where she was a happy part of a community, hockey team and circle of friends, Joy and Sadness get lost. Difficulties with the move ensue and all of the developments are seen through the lens of Fear, Anger and Disgust. [...]

By | 2016-05-28T22:54:40+00:00 July 30, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , |

Cultivate Optimism to Grow Your Practice and Your Life

Are you a natural optimist? When adversity strikes, do you tell yourself it's temporary and not your fault and consider all of the things in your life that are going well despite the one setback? Or do you chalk it up to inherent personal failings and give up? Evidence shows that if you tend to the former, you have a greater chance at being happier and more successful in business. If you tend toward the latter, it's not too late to change that habit. For me, optimism is not a default setting. Raised in a deeply cynical home by a [...]

The Resilience Factor in Building a Network and Marketing

For the last few months, I have been writing about the importance of building a network and marketing. Regardless of whether you are in public service or the private sector, it is important for your career. Your brand is something to define, nurture and protect, whether your work depends upon securing clients or not. If you are in the client business, how do you keep going when you hit a roadblock or obstacle? When prospects don't return calls, clients go away and you're starting to feel like the Maytag repairman, how do you handle it? The way you answer this [...]

By | 2016-05-28T23:24:16+00:00 May 28, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , |

Two Marketing Standbys to Get Your Process Going

For some people who are finishing up school or are in the early stages of a career, the M-word they fear most is marriage. For many, though, that word is marketing. In some ways, the Mother Goose nursery rhyme "This Little Piggy," commonly told while wiggling the ticklish toes of a toddler, says it all: "This little piggy went to market. This little piggy stayed home." What do you think about when you wake up in the morning and prepare for your day at work? If you are consumed with how you are going to get the work done, deciding [...]

By | 2016-05-31T21:44:52+00:00 April 30, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: |

The Power of an Hour – Part II (This Time it’s Personal)

Power of the Hour I have a confession to make. The "before" picture you see above (left) is not a stock image found on the internet by searching "clutter." It is a room in my own house that my husband and I dubbed "the Overbrook room." We named it after we moved and dumped everything that we weren't using from our prior home (in Overbrook) into a room in the basement. Then, we basically forgot about it. For 10 years. We only entered the room when some other item we didn't know where to put found its way [...]

By | 2016-06-01T16:31:21+00:00 April 12, 2015|Categories: Coaching, Life Coaching|Tags: , , |

It’s Time to Make the Effort to Build Your Network

Relationships have always been important to me. My natural inclination is to maintain them. It follows that I am still in touch with people from grade school on, professors I had in college and law school, employers, co-workers and friends I have met along the way. I didn't think of them as my "network" when we were in the school yard or having beers after taking the bar examination. But who can better attest to your character, competence and capabilities than the people who have known you, taught you, worked beside you and employed you? A few years ago, I [...]

How to Have a More Successful Career by Knowing Yourself

As Joseph Campbell said, "The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." It is never too early or late to discern preferences, natural talent and hone in on areas of innate ability. Whether you are a student, young professional or someone who mentors, teaches or coaches, pay attention to essential inclinations. They tell the story of who we are and what we should be doing. It may be very different from what your parents, bosses and intellect say, but since you cannot change your temperament, it is a much better strategy to work with it. Temperament theory has [...]

By | 2016-06-01T16:44:11+00:00 February 19, 2015|Categories: Life Coaching, The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , |

Identifying and Improving on the Positives in Your Career

When we think about what we want to accomplish in the coming year, we generally focus on how we want to change ourselves, what we didn't like about our behavior last year and maybe even what we did wrong. While I am always in favor of a conscious effort to improve, I am going to suggest that it is extremely worthwhile to devote some time to identifying what worked really well last year, where you excelled and what you're doing that you would like to see more of. The idea of a focused effort to do more of the same, [...]

By | 2016-06-01T16:49:06+00:00 January 29, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , |