Visualize a Path to Action to Achieve Your Goals

How do you decide what to pay attention to in a world where an onslaught of images and messages is constantly delivered by way of a myriad of devices along with an ongoing scan of ­in-person threats, opportunities and attractions our brains must prioritize every ­second? How do you maneuver around the minutiae of everyday life and keep your focus trained on aspirations and ­achievement? One answer is to train your brain to navigate past the noise and focus on what is important. Our brains are wired to filter information through the "reticular activating system (RAS)," located in the brain stem [...]

Make Play Work for You—Be More Productive and Have Fun

As children, we learn every day how to do life, from the basics of how to eat, get dressed, tie our shoes to more complex educational and societal lessons. Children need the release of play, at intervals, as a break from all that learning. Play is generally recognized as an essential part of growing up and is built-in. Kids have recess, build forts, cultivate hobbies, and create unique worlds, characters, secret languages and societies. Maturity is conventionally seen as a process that sheds the simple silly self, puts on a business suit and begins gravely shaking hands with the end [...]

By | 2016-07-28T13:14:54+00:00 July 28, 2016|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , |

How Mindfulness Can Help You Professionally

"In order to practice, you must be present in your mind," said the yoga teacher at the beginning of a recent class. So it goes with any practice whether it be law, medicine, or running a business. In order to be fully present, however, you must find a way to be calm. That's the tricky part. Early in my career, I went to the doctor complaining of shortness of breath, ­expecting him to prescribe medication. "You need to exercise three days a week," he said. "If I write that on a prescription, will you do it?" I was experiencing anxiety [...]

When It Comes to Your Career, Avoid Fallacy of ‘Sunk Costs’

In a recent episode of the television show "Better Call Saul," the titular lawyer who has scrambled and struggled to earn a living decides to call it quits with the law right after being offered the best opportunity of his life with a prestigious firm. He thought that was his dream, until it came true. His friend reminded him of how hard he worked to pass the bar exam and then asked a pivotal question: Why abandon practicing law after working so hard to get established? He responds by explaining the fallacy of the sunk cost. "It's what gamblers do," [...]

By | 2016-06-03T16:26:57+00:00 March 24, 2016|Categories: Career Coaching, The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , |

The Power of an Hour – Part II (This Time it’s Personal)

Power of the Hour I have a confession to make. The "before" picture you see above (left) is not a stock image found on the internet by searching "clutter." It is a room in my own house that my husband and I dubbed "the Overbrook room." We named it after we moved and dumped everything that we weren't using from our prior home (in Overbrook) into a room in the basement. Then, we basically forgot about it. For 10 years. We only entered the room when some other item we didn't know where to put found its way [...]

By | 2016-06-01T16:31:21+00:00 April 12, 2015|Categories: Coaching, Life Coaching|Tags: , , |

How to Have a More Successful Career by Knowing Yourself

As Joseph Campbell said, "The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." It is never too early or late to discern preferences, natural talent and hone in on areas of innate ability. Whether you are a student, young professional or someone who mentors, teaches or coaches, pay attention to essential inclinations. They tell the story of who we are and what we should be doing. It may be very different from what your parents, bosses and intellect say, but since you cannot change your temperament, it is a much better strategy to work with it. Temperament theory has [...]

By | 2016-06-01T16:44:11+00:00 February 19, 2015|Categories: Life Coaching, The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , |

Following Through on Your Goals in 2015

"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And you are the one who'll decide where to go." Dr. Seuss, "Oh, the Places You'll Go!" A client announced recently that "2015 is the year of health." She accomplished extraordinary things professionally this year: finishing a book, securing an agent and a publisher, and getting a contract while working a full-time job. Now, she wants to concentrate on getting healthier. This is a natural time to take stock of [...]

By | 2016-06-01T16:58:01+00:00 December 9, 2014|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , |

Seeing the High Holidays as an Opportunity for Change

When you look back on last year, are there things you did or did not do that you wish you could change for the new year? Rosh Hashanah marks the beginning of the Ten Days of Awe, during which we Jews reflect upon our actions over the past year, seek forgiveness for transgressions and plan a better life. The work, which really begins in this month leading up to the High Holidays, starts with introspection, examining our lives and taking responsibility for it. Although God is the final judge, we individuals consider who we were over the past year and [...]

By | 2016-06-01T17:19:00+00:00 September 10, 2014|Categories: Jewish Exponent|Tags: , , , , |

Complaining: How It’s Affecting Your Work and Life

A fortune cookie reminded me recently of a topic I have been wanting to cover in this column. It said: "You can't expect to be a lucky dog if you're always growling." Lawyers are in the business of complaining in some ways. We write, edit and file complaints in court, object during depositions, arguments and trials to questions posed, positions taken and portrayals of our clients and we file motions aimed at achieving relief by recounting the misdeeds of our opponents. These are necessary components of an adversarial system. A competent advocate must advance the client's cause and point out [...]

By | 2016-06-01T21:29:38+00:00 June 9, 2014|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , |

How to Change Your Life at Any Age

A common refrain from clients is that it's too late to alter the direction of their lives, as though our course is set and deviation simply not possible. This is a usually false premise and the opposite is true—it is not too late to significantly improve your career and life. Nelson Mandela is a shining inspiration. Released from prison at age 72, he became the first black president of South Africa, won the Nobel Peace Prize, re-married and so much more. There are many examples of second and third chapters in life, including Grandma Moses, who began her painting career [...]