How Personality Assessments Can Help Your Career

How Personality Assessments Can Help Your Career I have often said that I didn't begin to know myself until I was in my 30's and by then was already a litigator. An unhappy one. I chose to hang on and gut it out, confident that I could overcome my ­distaste for battle and learn to love litigation. Changing firms only served to cement my sense that I was in the wrong field because no matter how nice the people I worked with were, my feelings about the work did not transform. I marveled at litigators who reveled in [...]

By | 2017-02-28T21:14:48+00:00 February 27, 2017|Categories: The Huffington Post, The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , , |

New Year Resolution: Be Proactive in Your Choices

I am not a big fan of New Year ­resolutions. Turning the calendar page from December to January does not make one eager or ready to change long-standing habits and disillusionment often follows. But there is a year-end tradition that is both reflective and proactive—taking inventory of your world with an eye toward what is working, what you want more of and less of in your life and letting go of any perceived or real failures once you have gathered whatever gems they have to offer in the way of opportunity and awareness. You can take stock and start the [...]

By | 2016-12-28T15:02:54+00:00 December 21, 2016|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , , |

The Thrill and Adventure of Working at a Startup

What's next on your bucket list ­professionally? Do you ever think of starting your own ­business or joining a startup? Working for a new enterprise can be exhilarating, especially when you prepare yourself. How do you do that? By surrendering to the fact that growth requires change, so nothing stays the same, and recognizing opportunities to be better, even if you have to quickly override your own decisions. When a business starts at ground zero, initial growth is ­exponential, requiring resilience and constant adaptation to the demands of it. Before doing it, I recommend a ­hard-nosed, clear-eyed assessment of your [...]

By | 2016-09-22T19:58:36+00:00 September 22, 2016|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , , |

Multitasking Is Not an Effective Way to Work

I distinctly recall the first time I heard the word multitasking. It was in the late 1990s and I was in a colleague's office for a meeting. She was sitting behind her desk and I was in a chair facing her. As we talked, she began to straighten up, ­picking up papers and glancing at them before ­assembling them in neat stacks. I asked if she would prefer I come back to which she replied, "No, no, I'm just multitasking." Given the context, I was able to deduce the essence of the word, if not the precise definition. Setting aside [...]

Transform Your Leadership Skills Through ‘Crucial Conversations’

Do you dread and procrastinate initiating discussions when you think others will respond negatively to what you have to say? Are you hesitant to voice an opinion because you presume negative consequences? Practicing law, by its very nature, requires a facility for difficult conversations with clients, witnesses, supervisors, direct-reports and judges where outcomes can be greatly influenced by developing skills in handling conflict. This is at the heart of "Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High," by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan and Al Switzler. The methods described in this book are invaluable in any profession [...]

By | 2016-06-03T16:27:22+00:00 February 18, 2016|Categories: Career Coaching, Executive Coaching, The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , |

Strategies for Making Your New Year’s Resolutions Stick

When I think of a brand new year, I envision a beautiful, tranquil lake, so still that it mirrors everything surrounding it. Nothing has happened yet to disturb or disrupt that peaceful surface. Our actions are like pebbles thrown into the lake that ripple out, changing the reflection in the mirror and rearranging the landscape in expected and surprising ways. The new year is a natural time to reflect. And many people make resolutions. Each January, membership at my gym swells beyond normal limits as new members seek to shrink and tone. The influx of new members, however, is generally [...]

By | 2016-06-03T16:35:36+00:00 January 28, 2016|Categories: Coaching, Life Coaching, The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , |

Finding Ways to Maintain Civility With Your Competitors

On Sept. 8, sisters Serena and Venus Williams squared off during the U.S. Open in a match that could have had historical significance for Serena Williams, who was closing in on a Grand Slam, a feat not achieved since 1988. In an article aptly titled "Love Game," Steve Tignor, for Tennis.com, described the charged atmosphere as a sold-out, celebrity-riddled crowd filled Arthur Ashe Stadium in New York. "It was more unique, definitely," Venus Williams said of the vibe. "Serena is going for the Grand Slam, and I think everybody is interested because she has to play her sister to get [...]

By | 2016-05-28T18:32:25+00:00 September 17, 2015|Categories: Career Coaching, The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , |

Tips for Developing Self-Confidence So You Can Flourish

Last month, I wrote about the rising recognition of emotional intelligence as a key factor in successful leadership using the new movie "Inside Out" to illustrate points about anger and self-management. Now, I turn to "The Sound of Music" for an assist in addressing another competency of emotional intelligence: self-confidence. In the movie, young novice Maria tentatively begins her journey to be governess to seven children. She has no experience and is forced to leave everything she knows. In the song "I Have Confidence," Maria sets her intention for how to handle the new situation, telling herself that she will [...]

By | 2016-05-28T22:44:01+00:00 August 27, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , , |

The Resilience Factor in Building a Network and Marketing

For the last few months, I have been writing about the importance of building a network and marketing. Regardless of whether you are in public service or the private sector, it is important for your career. Your brand is something to define, nurture and protect, whether your work depends upon securing clients or not. If you are in the client business, how do you keep going when you hit a roadblock or obstacle? When prospects don't return calls, clients go away and you're starting to feel like the Maytag repairman, how do you handle it? The way you answer this [...]

By | 2016-05-28T23:24:16+00:00 May 28, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , |

The Power of an Hour – Part II (This Time it’s Personal)

Power of the Hour I have a confession to make. The "before" picture you see above (left) is not a stock image found on the internet by searching "clutter." It is a room in my own house that my husband and I dubbed "the Overbrook room." We named it after we moved and dumped everything that we weren't using from our prior home (in Overbrook) into a room in the basement. Then, we basically forgot about it. For 10 years. We only entered the room when some other item we didn't know where to put found its way [...]

By | 2016-06-01T16:31:21+00:00 April 12, 2015|Categories: Coaching, Life Coaching|Tags: , , |