How to Harness Emotional Intelligence to Ensure Success

The new animated movie "Inside Out" takes the audience inside the brain of an 11-year-old girl named Riley, where her responses to situations are governed by five emotions personified. They are Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear and Disgust, and they vie for command of the internal control center to influence Riley's behavior. When her family moves to San Francisco from Minnesota, where she was a happy part of a community, hockey team and circle of friends, Joy and Sadness get lost. Difficulties with the move ensue and all of the developments are seen through the lens of Fear, Anger and Disgust. [...]

By | 2016-05-28T22:54:40+00:00 July 30, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , |

Cultivate Optimism to Grow Your Practice and Your Life

Are you a natural optimist? When adversity strikes, do you tell yourself it's temporary and not your fault and consider all of the things in your life that are going well despite the one setback? Or do you chalk it up to inherent personal failings and give up? Evidence shows that if you tend to the former, you have a greater chance at being happier and more successful in business. If you tend toward the latter, it's not too late to change that habit. For me, optimism is not a default setting. Raised in a deeply cynical home by a [...]

The Resilience Factor in Building a Network and Marketing

For the last few months, I have been writing about the importance of building a network and marketing. Regardless of whether you are in public service or the private sector, it is important for your career. Your brand is something to define, nurture and protect, whether your work depends upon securing clients or not. If you are in the client business, how do you keep going when you hit a roadblock or obstacle? When prospects don't return calls, clients go away and you're starting to feel like the Maytag repairman, how do you handle it? The way you answer this [...]

By | 2016-05-28T23:24:16+00:00 May 28, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , |

How to Have a More Successful Career by Knowing Yourself

As Joseph Campbell said, "The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." It is never too early or late to discern preferences, natural talent and hone in on areas of innate ability. Whether you are a student, young professional or someone who mentors, teaches or coaches, pay attention to essential inclinations. They tell the story of who we are and what we should be doing. It may be very different from what your parents, bosses and intellect say, but since you cannot change your temperament, it is a much better strategy to work with it. Temperament theory has [...]

By | 2016-06-01T16:44:11+00:00 February 19, 2015|Categories: Life Coaching, The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , , |

Identifying and Improving on the Positives in Your Career

When we think about what we want to accomplish in the coming year, we generally focus on how we want to change ourselves, what we didn't like about our behavior last year and maybe even what we did wrong. While I am always in favor of a conscious effort to improve, I am going to suggest that it is extremely worthwhile to devote some time to identifying what worked really well last year, where you excelled and what you're doing that you would like to see more of. The idea of a focused effort to do more of the same, [...]

By | 2016-06-01T16:49:06+00:00 January 29, 2015|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , |

Mastering the Art of Career Transitions

Brenda was 57 years old when she was suddenly laid off from a major Philadelphia law firm in 2011 after 20 years. This is the story of how she learned the new terrain of seeking employment, repackaged herself and how you can too. The first thing Brenda did was spend "a month on the couch." She was shocked, devastated and describes it as "losing a chunk of identity." She doubted her worth as a professional. This was not wasted time, but a necessary recharging period that pays off when you get ready to go for it. It may be important [...]

By | 2016-06-01T17:32:38+00:00 September 11, 2014|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , , |

Unearthing Your Own Renewable Energy

When you make a decision to boost your career, heighten your profile, improve your life, stop putting off important goals and be your best, one of the first steps is to address energy drainers in order to free up time, space and emotional resources for the things you really want. Recently, I was on my hands and knees in the garden, tugging on stubborn weeds, being careful to pull them up by their roots, as my mother taught me, when the question occurred to me: why weed? Why must we vanquish a healthy, living plant other than our aesthetic sense [...]

By | 2016-06-01T17:40:47+00:00 August 14, 2014|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , |

Complaining: How It’s Affecting Your Work and Life

A fortune cookie reminded me recently of a topic I have been wanting to cover in this column. It said: "You can't expect to be a lucky dog if you're always growling." Lawyers are in the business of complaining in some ways. We write, edit and file complaints in court, object during depositions, arguments and trials to questions posed, positions taken and portrayals of our clients and we file motions aimed at achieving relief by recounting the misdeeds of our opponents. These are necessary components of an adversarial system. A competent advocate must advance the client's cause and point out [...]

By | 2016-06-01T21:29:38+00:00 June 9, 2014|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , |

Your Business May Need Spring Cleaning Too

If you want to attract new clients, start a business, or get more done, you will be well served by evaluating the extent to which physical clutter is impacting your ability to process information and focus. Consider the science mounting up that clutter has a profound effect on your productivity. According to an article in The Journal of Neuroscience, researchers at the Princeton University Neuroscience Institute found that: "Multiple stimuli present in the visual field at the same time compete for neural representation by mutually suppressing their evoked activity throughout visual cortex, providing a neural correlate for the limited processing [...]

By | 2016-06-01T21:32:06+00:00 May 14, 2014|Categories: The Legal Intelligencer|Tags: , , |

How to Change Your Life at Any Age

A common refrain from clients is that it's too late to alter the direction of their lives, as though our course is set and deviation simply not possible. This is a usually false premise and the opposite is true—it is not too late to significantly improve your career and life. Nelson Mandela is a shining inspiration. Released from prison at age 72, he became the first black president of South Africa, won the Nobel Peace Prize, re-married and so much more. There are many examples of second and third chapters in life, including Grandma Moses, who began her painting career [...]